Positions

When someone on question time is listening to another speaker put yourself in their place: what are they thinking? How are they thinking it?

Listening

When someone is speaking to you, or you are listening to someone you don't know, what do you do?
Do you just listen?
Are you sensitised to rubbish they might speak?
Are you waiting for them to slip up?
Are you open to what might come up?
Are you more interested in them, at that point, than anything else?

I suspect you are just waiting and trying to make sense of the chat. Same as anyone else!!
So what makes you think that others are doing most of the negative things above.