Measuring

Standards are about measuring ourselves against our values.

Some PWS measure themselves against an ideal in relation to other people.
Some PWS measure themselves against the perfect speech with no erms... or ehs.... or ahs.....
Some PWS measure themselves against some perfection they see in others that they will never measure up to
Some PWS measure themselves against how they think others see them

All of the above are not useful and most other people are getting on with their lives and don't even notice the folk around them.

In a shopping mall sit and watch other people - no one notices strangers - they don't matter unless they come into contact.
If you catch someone's eye for too long it may be taken as a threat or a come-on!! so look away or smile depending on your inclinations. You will notice their reaction anyway.

Do you notice or care about other people in a Mall the way you think they notice and care about you?

If you think they notice you an know anything about you what is your evidence?